Growing up, the notion of privacy was totally lost
on me. I had a brood of siblings, plus a clan of cousins, so the idea of
personal space—not to mention individuality— wasn’t even a blip in my universe.
In that rumble tumble hoard of people the values of sharing, togetherness, and
getting along were prized over everything else. I was so used to having others
as a constant in my life, it was almost like I didn’t know where my thoughts
started, and someone else’s began. This actually made for some of the most amazing
memories and life experiences, but it also made coming into my own a little
more difficult. Eventually, the carving out of the personal space for my
own things, ideas, and self did start to happen. But because this development was
something I had to work at, it’s something I’m still hyper aware of today. And it also
comes with some pretty quirky manifestations.
from www.centsationalgirl.com |
Manifestation #1:
I’m obsessed with home offices and boudoirs. Any
time I visit a site on interior decoration, I click on the tabs that will lead
me to the wonderful world of personal spaces. I’m especially thrilled when I
come across ingenious designs that make use of often overlooked spots. For me,
it’s the visual equivalent of an a-ha!
moment, and a testament to the fact that yes, people do need people, but we
also need to allow ourselves some breathing room where we can express and
listen to ourselves, and do what we
need to get done.
Manifestation #2:
Every time I’m given the grand tour of a friend’s
home, the back of my mind seems to automatically scan the area for evidence of
my friend’s personal space, or a nook where I would put my own little hideaway
if I lived there. Sometimes the sanctuary is just a chair, or a quiet corner behind a
pile of toys—but it’s there. And that’s what matters.
illustration by Rina Albert-Llamas |
tata
Four years ago we moved back to our hometown and
left behind a dream house that had special spaces made just for us–a toy
collection room for my husband and a craft room for me.
I was a little lost as I tried to nest and settle
in our new home. One thing I really wanted to recreate was a craft room/home office setup. I would start toying with the idea of using one room or
another, but always cut things short because they were already being used for
something else. Eventually I got stuck on believing there was just no
room.
Then one weekend, inspiration struck. The
hallway on our second floor, right outside all our bedrooms, had some
space. I quickly rearranged a few pieces of furniture (something I get
such a kick out of doing), bought a shelf, a small round table and two chairs
(that were on sale!!), filled all the pieces with only the things I needed for
purposes of craft work and play. After just one weekend’s worth of work,
I was surprised that I got exactly what I needed: A new home office!
“Bloom where you’re planted!” I love this
saying. I live by it. Some say it’s making do, but I think it’s the
making and doing that gives results. And the attitude you have when you
face new challenges can make all the difference. The solution might just
be right in front of you–or right outside your door ;) ;)
anna
Hi, Tata & Anna!
ReplyDeleteOh, the topic of sacred space resounds loudly and clearly through me. We've done the house thing and we hated it - a big house just means more cleaning up to do. And let's not forget shovelling snow in the winter and gardening in the summer. Way too many chores for a family with 3 kids. Although I do miss the larger space afforded by a house, I have no regrets about moving back into a condo! Now, we don't spend our weekends burdened with chores - we actually have time to enjoy our crazy family. We relish in the little 'getaways' we manage to squeeze in (yes, like a soak in the tub), and I wouldn't have it any other way! As long as I have my little "photography studio" space by a big, bright window, I'm happy - and that's my sacred space!
Hi, Fong! We so agree--your space should serve you (and it shouldn't be the other way around!). Keep snapping your awesome pics and enjoy your tub time :)
ReplyDeleteIt was great working with you both...and Anna, we are happy that you were able to meet Martha... We were as excited as you!
ReplyDeletei miss you tata- Tara
tars! i miss our crazy "dynamic duo" days. from new york training, to the launch, and even my days in your dad's wheelchair! lots of hard work--but they were also the best of times. so glad we got to go through them all together-tata
DeleteTara, I will always treasure my Martha experience...thank you so, so much for making my dream come true! -anna
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